Wednesday, March 4, 2015

I Just Want To Be Happy

I have always been a passionate person. It comes with the territory of being, “overly emotional.” I have always wanted to help people. The moment I got sober and experienced reprieve from the pain I had endured and caused because of the “ick,” I was motivated to assure as many people as possible they were not alone.

We all have “ick” in our lives in one form or another; some uncomfortable feeling regarding something we've done, felt, thought, heard, or witnessed. I know I’m not alone in feeling sometimes like I totally am. How could anyone possibly understand the insanity that goes on between my ears on the daily - the amount of self-doubt, lack of confidence, worry, etc? 

When I started this blog, I was shocked by how often my honesty was met with identification. It was a lifesaver; literally. I had the courage to say "I hurt" out loud, and many of you had the courage to say, "Me too." I don’t know where I would be without the relief I received every time a stranger reached out to embrace the "we" of feeling different and completely unlovable.

It was powerful. It was honest human connection. And it was vital to my ability to breathe.

There’s no one on the planet that hasn’t, at one time or another, experienced some sort of pain, loss, fear, doubt, or insecurity. There’s no one in the world incapable of understanding the innate, visceral need to be loved and accepted by other human beings. The most powerful and influential people in the universe get scared and occasionally need reassurance from another person. 

There’s nothing wrong with needing people. 

There’s nothing wrong with not being perfect.

Perfect is a fairytale. It is the "happily-ever-after" we compare our humanness to so we can feel like shit.

Last month I got fired up about all the pressure we often put on each other as moms; armed with believe in this mythical creature, Perfection. I witnessed one too many nasty comments directed at moms, just doing their best, and I got...passionate.

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There is no good reason for us to tear each other limb from limb, emotionally or otherwise, because we don't agree on anything. There's no reason for us to feel challenged or belittled because someone else makes different choices, or even flat out believes our way is wrong. These are simply opinions. Everyone is entitled to them. I get judgmental and overly opinionated just like everyone else. Then I usually realize it's none of my business how you live your life and I move on. 

The mere thought of beating the shit out of you until you see things my way is exhausting. I've tried in the past. I've spent too many years arguing with people about irrelevant bullshit. I spent years angry and ready to prove I was better than you...because I was afraid you'd see I wasn't.

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I just want to be happy. I selfishly want you to be happy too. 

I know I am not responsible for changing other people, and don't have the power to. I am responsible for changing me. So, I made a commitment to try to be more intentional with my words and actions. Before I knew it, I was on change.org signing a petition I had created, and sending it to everyone I knew. I tried my best to explain where #Mommitment was stemming from. There were so many motivating factors, and I'm sure I was all over the place. I know I confused a few people. 

The point is simply this; kindness is a powerful thing, and everyone needs some. Motherhood is a tough job, and no one is doing it perfectly. It's okay for us to say, "I don't agree with you." It's not okay for us to attack someone's character and/or life simply because we don't agree with them. Let's cut that shit out. 

Motherhood is not a competition.

I am beyond humbled and blown away by the number of signatures on the #Mommitment petition to date, and the plethora of inspiring comments about why it’s so important to so many people. I am grateful to learn how many other women are tired of negativity, and willing to commit to trying to be more intentionally kind. I am honored and inspired by the amount of bloggers who have been so willing to dedicate their time to writing about this movement and their own commitment to moms. I have cried a million happy tears, and my heart has nearly exploded a thousand times.

Many people have been congratulating me on the campaign's success, especially after my recent interview with The Good News Network (airing date TBA). 

As much as my ego would love to take credit for all of this, I cannot. This has been a WE movement from day one. WE have committed to kindness and asked others to join us. WE have decided to throw extra love in the face of hate. 
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WE have made this difference.  


So, congratulations to YOU, and thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for your support and love. 









If you would like to get involved, please join our #Mommitment facebook page, email, or tweet your pictures and/or blog posts to @Mommitment on twitter. 

Also, please check out our incredible Pinterest board and all of the inspiring, kick-ass women who have helped make this possible!!

I hope you will join us.  
 
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